Turning the other cheek versus being a doormat – Is there a difference?

IMG_5062We’ve all been there. Someone makes a nasty remark that was uncalled for, and you’re faced with the decision of either snapping back and putting that person in their place, or silently enduring a figurative slap in the face.

A while back I was caught in this situation. I unknowingly did something that upset someone, and rather than communicating this to me so we could work it out, they made a nasty comment that blatantly questioned my competence. Ouch! But instead of standing up for myself, I remained silent and let the comment pass. I stewed over the sting of it for several days afterward.

I will admit, I’m not very good with sharp comebacks when it comes to standing up for myself. I wouldn’t say that I’m anybody’s doormat and I allow people to stomp all over me. I just don’t have it in me to be mean, and that sometimes translates to letting people get away with unacceptable rudeness that should have been corrected.

So here’s my question: is there a way to turn the other cheek and be the bigger person while still standing up for yourself? Continue reading